Is your best communication skill silence?
Are you as good a listener as you think you are?
Dale Carnegie observed, "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
A coaching friend of mine, Sean Klonaris, who specializes in business and communication coaching, shared this great listening exercise in his communication tip email today. I've studied lots of things on communication, but this was a new one to me. It's very simple but sounds very effective. Try it out for yourself and see.
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Attitude: Every person in life has something of value to teach me.
Key: Everyone wants to be heard, understood, respected, and loved.
Really want to listen better? Try this exercise. It has literally improved my personal listening in a matter of minutes of using it. I think it is "pure gold" in quickly improving your listening....
The Rapid Repeat Technique
When someone speaks to you, repeat back with they have just said in your head during the pauses (so you will
hear it in your own voice).
=>Reason: Scientists claim every 11 seconds we engage in self-talk. With RR, you occupy your mind with reviewing what has just been said instead of going off on a tangent to something unrelated (like your own memories, perceptions, distractions)
It takes work at first, but filling your mind with their ideas during the gaps when you are listening will benefit you in two Big ways...
1. You cannot be distracted. Your mind is occupied by repeating what has just been said. This eliminates all wandering.
2.You will be repeating what has been said and therefore increasing your memory of it. Your recall will be stronger and last longer.
Try this out on people, TV newscasts, song lyrics, wherever you can test it out. I assure you, it can help you big-time!
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If you'd like to learn more about communicating better in business and in life, contact Sean to get on his email list for more tips like this or to schedule a free sample coaching session.
Skyrocket your Communication E-zine
Direct 954-734-5955
E-mail sean.klonaris@gmail.com
***Receive tips, tools & techniques with a Free Report to take your communication skills to the next level at www.coachsean.com
Live life fully!
Lisa
Dale Carnegie observed, "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
A coaching friend of mine, Sean Klonaris, who specializes in business and communication coaching, shared this great listening exercise in his communication tip email today. I've studied lots of things on communication, but this was a new one to me. It's very simple but sounds very effective. Try it out for yourself and see.
*******************************************************
Attitude: Every person in life has something of value to teach me.
Key: Everyone wants to be heard, understood, respected, and loved.
Really want to listen better? Try this exercise. It has literally improved my personal listening in a matter of minutes of using it. I think it is "pure gold" in quickly improving your listening....
The Rapid Repeat Technique
When someone speaks to you, repeat back with they have just said in your head during the pauses (so you will
hear it in your own voice).
=>Reason: Scientists claim every 11 seconds we engage in self-talk. With RR, you occupy your mind with reviewing what has just been said instead of going off on a tangent to something unrelated (like your own memories, perceptions, distractions)
It takes work at first, but filling your mind with their ideas during the gaps when you are listening will benefit you in two Big ways...
1. You cannot be distracted. Your mind is occupied by repeating what has just been said. This eliminates all wandering.
2.You will be repeating what has been said and therefore increasing your memory of it. Your recall will be stronger and last longer.
Try this out on people, TV newscasts, song lyrics, wherever you can test it out. I assure you, it can help you big-time!
***********************************************
If you'd like to learn more about communicating better in business and in life, contact Sean to get on his email list for more tips like this or to schedule a free sample coaching session.
Skyrocket your Communication E-zine
Direct 954-734-5955
E-mail sean.klonaris@gmail.com
***Receive tips, tools & techniques with a Free Report to take your communication skills to the next level at www.coachsean.com
Live life fully!
Lisa
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