A client of mine this week emailed me that she was let go of the job she had just gotten 5 months ago after being out of work for some time and being the sole support for herself, her 2 kids, and her husband (who is sick and can't work). She is devastated and overwhelmed with worry and anxiety. She hasn't told anyone but me yet (not even her family), because she doesn't want to worry them and is hoping to find some work before the last paycheck comes in so they won't have to know.

As you can imagine, this is a huge burden she's carrying and she is making herself sick, crying all the time, not eating, not sleeping, constantly in knots, and nauseous. It is shaking her faith in God and creating a state of hopelessness. I have been in similar situations and know all too well that feeling. Perhaps you are in this situation as well, or at least know someone who is.

So what do we do when this happens? How do we change the situation? How can we keep from going deeper down into the pit of despair and hopelessness? Here is an excerpt from the email I sent this to assist her in shifting into a more resourceful thought process and feeling. This will better position her to take positive action that will serve her instead of reacting in fear with actions that are much less likely to create an effective outcome.

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I can tell you from experience that although it creates a lot of stress and worry, having a "crisis" happen often puts a fire under us that moves us out of a "comfort" zone where we're not growing and into massive action that gets results. I have definitely experienced this several times in my business (including taking the business to full-time in the first place). Everything goes in cycles—it's never ALL UP or ALL DOWN. But we can learn to anticipate and flow with those cycles more easily instead of fighting or reeling against them, which just makes it worse. What we resist, persists!

Also realize that everything is a matter of perspective. Life is 9/10ths perception. And when we get into a state of fear, we literally coil up and become protective instead of creative. This is the worst thing we can do. Instead, begin to infuse some positive ideas,
perspective, and hopefulness into your brain to counteract all the negative going on in your head right now. You cannot solve a
problem from the same mindset that created the problem.

Here are some AWESOME resources I recommend:
Go to John Assaraff's and James Ray's websites and sign up for their newsletter/blog, watch their videos: http://jamesray.com/resources/
http://www.johnassaraf.com/free_resources.php
Check out some of Jack Canfield's short but inspiring You Tube videos. His website has some great resources, too. www.jackcanfield.com
Listen to "Everything is Energy" radio shows: www.everythingisenergy.com which help you to understand how the energy you exude is the energy you continue to attract, and teaches you techniques to shift your energy.

Also consider this idea: Your boss letting you go had absolutely NOTHING to do with YOU, your work, or your value.
You can choose to think/believe THAT, or you can choose to think what you automatically concluded: "I did something wrong. I wasn't good enough. This is about me." You get to choose what you say to yourself about the experience. There is no TRUTH—only belief.

So, I would encourage you to refrain from blaming yourself and putting yourself down—it's counterproductive and takes energy and creativity away from looking ahead to what you CAN control and focus on, which is creating ideas, identifying resources and options, generating action steps, and taking action on them.

Worry is not productive, either. Worry is the negative use of the imagination. What do you think would happen if you got out of the negative "what if" scenarios going on inside your head and shifted into positive possibility? To do that, go to those resources I gave you above. Create a shift. That will make all the difference. Negative thinking creates negative energy that acts like a magnet, attracting MORE negative energy. Don't take any actions until you put yourself in the right mindset to take actions that will truly serve you.

So, take time each day to watch/read/listen to the resources I listed above. They are some of the tools I've used to help ME shift when I've gotten stuck in that state of fear, doubt, and worry, so I know THEY WORK. There are many more, but those are a great start.
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Live Fully!


p.s.—I also have some release techniques I teach and use with my clients to facilitate this shift quicker. If you'd like to learn more about those, call me for a fr*e consultation.
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"Creating healthy, natural, lasting change thru' the power of your mind"
Lisa Smith, MHt, CC, NLP
Life by Design, LLC
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