How to Deal with Difficult People
I had a boss once that was THE WORST micromanaging, anal-retentive person I'd ever worked with!
I was SO on the verge of quitting so many times while she was my boss, waking up each morning dreading going into work, even though I loved my work and helping people with hypnosis.
I finally remembered what I knew about the law of attraction—what we focus on expands.
I realized I was making the problem worse by focusing on how miserable I was and how much I didn't like her. So, I switched my focus and began to focus on the aspects of the job that I loved and the aspects within her that I COULD like or admire.
I also asked to have a conversation with her to find out her thoughts on why she wanted things done a certain way so I could help her get done what she wanted to and not be fighting her all the time, as well as to get to know her a little more on a personal level. She said she really appreciated that I came to her and asked to have that conversation.
Things were definitely easier between us after that. Although I still didn't agree with a lot of the things she asked us to do or how she went about managing things, I understood her better and didn't get so upset by her requests (she'd had a lot of rejection in her life and therefore had a strong need to try to be in control; she also had low self-esteem even though she tried to come off as highly competent and "together").
Interestingly, as well, within a month of that time, someone else bought the franchise office I was in and she was transferred to another office!
Try to do the same thing with anyone in your life that you are having difficulties with. Have a conversation to learn to understand them (not to make them wrong or point out what you don't like about what they do). Especially try to get to know them on a personal level (being curious but not intrusive). You might be surprised at what you find out. They might even start to feel like you care about them and therefore act differently toward you (and others in the office if you work with them). Focus every day on their GOOD qualities and even compliment them on those. It will change not only you, but also them.
Live Life Fully!
Lisa
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"Creating healthy, natural, lasting change thru' the power of your mind"
Lisa Smith, MHt, CC, NLP
Life by Design, LLC
www.hypnocoachlisa.com
To contact me directly, call 757-631-9940 or click here to email: hypnocoach@cox.net
BEST OF THE BEACH, BRONZE WINNER 2009 FOR BEST WEIGHT LOSS CENTER
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I was SO on the verge of quitting so many times while she was my boss, waking up each morning dreading going into work, even though I loved my work and helping people with hypnosis.
I finally remembered what I knew about the law of attraction—what we focus on expands.
I realized I was making the problem worse by focusing on how miserable I was and how much I didn't like her. So, I switched my focus and began to focus on the aspects of the job that I loved and the aspects within her that I COULD like or admire.
I also asked to have a conversation with her to find out her thoughts on why she wanted things done a certain way so I could help her get done what she wanted to and not be fighting her all the time, as well as to get to know her a little more on a personal level. She said she really appreciated that I came to her and asked to have that conversation.
Things were definitely easier between us after that. Although I still didn't agree with a lot of the things she asked us to do or how she went about managing things, I understood her better and didn't get so upset by her requests (she'd had a lot of rejection in her life and therefore had a strong need to try to be in control; she also had low self-esteem even though she tried to come off as highly competent and "together").
Interestingly, as well, within a month of that time, someone else bought the franchise office I was in and she was transferred to another office!
Try to do the same thing with anyone in your life that you are having difficulties with. Have a conversation to learn to understand them (not to make them wrong or point out what you don't like about what they do). Especially try to get to know them on a personal level (being curious but not intrusive). You might be surprised at what you find out. They might even start to feel like you care about them and therefore act differently toward you (and others in the office if you work with them). Focus every day on their GOOD qualities and even compliment them on those. It will change not only you, but also them.
Live Life Fully!
Lisa
***************************************
"Creating healthy, natural, lasting change thru' the power of your mind"
Lisa Smith, MHt, CC, NLP
Life by Design, LLC
www.hypnocoachlisa.com
To contact me directly, call 757-631-9940 or click here to email: hypnocoach@cox.net
BEST OF THE BEACH, BRONZE WINNER 2009 FOR BEST WEIGHT LOSS CENTER
BLOG: Lessons on Living Fully http://blog.hypnocoachlisa.com
Get F-R-E-E stuff, like a healthy mind & body ezine, 25 Top Ways to Motivate Yourself, a relaxation audio/video, and MORE! www.hypnocoachlisa.com/Free_Stuff_.html
Visit my weight loss website:
www.WinningWithWeightLoss.com
FOLLOW ME:
Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/FitBizCoach
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/hypnocoach
FB Fan page: http://company.to/LifebyDesign
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